Dating Culture In The Media
This week for my blog I decided to talk about something our generation has made more acceptable, which is the presence of dating culture online. More specifically I want to talk about online relationships, ghosting, as well as hard and soft launches. When I was younger and I got my first phone my mom was so adamant on not talking to people I didn't know because it could be fake and dangerous. Now we are hearing stories about young girls being in full blown relationships with miles in between them. Sometimes they are harmless however sometimes the people you think you are talking to online are not who they really are and they can have bad intentions. With ghosting, everyone knows how it feels and I almost feel as if it was easier to understand and deal with in real life before it was considered a common pop culture term. When you hear someone is getting ghosted you immediately think something bad or awkward happened to make one of the parties stop talking to the other as a whole. I feel as if this term normalized doing this which makes it so much worse. Now with hard and soft launches I feel like it's for the media's validation and that takes away from the meaning of the relationship. A “soft launch” is when let's say a girl has been talking to a boy and posts a photo of his arm or something that's considered a soft launch because they haven’t really shown much of the significant other but you can tell it's a significant other. A hard launch is when let's say the girl from the soft launch posts a photo at a dinner date and you completely see her dates face. It is a hard launch because you can see who it is and maybe she had never posted his face or any details noticing it's a specific man. I feel as if the media has changed the way our generation looks at relationships and we constantly run to the media for validation and approval and I despise this for us. I feel as if the most important things in life (family, relationships, values) should be kept away from the media, because the media always ends up ruining the best things.
Yessss I agree I hate the soft or hard launch because at the end of the day you're posting who your with, but people in a way categorizing certain things when it comes to the media is almost to please the media or see how much of a reaction they can get out of them. When posting you're in a relationship especially for the first time someone just gets lots of views and shares and that's what most people want to happen when they post someone but they don't know what they will say about their partner so that's why some people "soft launch". At the end of the day, dating culture now is so overthought and meaningless once social media comes into play.
ReplyDeleteI agree! Online dating has changed how our generation sees relationships. Ghosting, soft launches, and hard launches really show's how much we rely on social media for validation. Sometimes it’s harmless, but it can also make relationships feel less meaningful.
ReplyDeleteI agree that online dating has ruined dating for a lot of people especially with hookup culture. I feel like a lot of people don't realize that their relationships don't have to post their relationships or any detail of whats going on people don't need to know.
ReplyDeleteI agree as well! Online dating and dating in the media is dangerous for people growing up in this world, most of us got to see and experience what it was like before and that's why we can tell there is something wrong. But the younger generation this is all they know "situationships", "rosters" and so many other things and being in a relationship is such a taboo subject now its something done once its time to "settle down" and people see that as a threat and being miserable which is crazy! But great job! :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with this so much! I think that "stranger danger" used to be instilled in us so much as kids and now there are so many ways to talk to and meet strangers on the internet.
ReplyDeleteWow! I can't even imagine dating today. So much pressure and so many risks. This semester in multiple classes we have discussed actions a person goes through before going on a date; using wearables to alert of any problems to family/friends/police, rape prevention underwear, nail polish or test strips to make sure your drink hasn't been tainted, photos of yourself of what you're wearing to parents. It's fucking crazy! Damn, I wish you all could have dated before social media.
ReplyDeleteI agree! I think that social media has completely destroyed the idea of relationships. There is so much pressure around social media on a relationships that it can go so far as to end the relationship. People are too concerned about being left on delivered or someone being active because of the stigma around it. It is seen as such a negative thing, causing many people to overthink and spiral. I have come across a couple people who say they don't really use social media. When someone says that in regards to a relationship, it is hard to believe and I feel like people overthink and immediately raise suspicions.
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